3 months ago, I brought my new puppy home. It was very exciting and I was so nervous if she would like her new place. But it is always more exciting for the pup. Imagine being with your litter mates and parents for 8 weeks and then be simply taken away from strangers and being separated for the first time.
This is one of the most stressful moments in a dog’s life and we want your puppy’s first night to be as pleasant for everyone as possible.
The First Few Moments
Be sure that before you bring your puppy home for the first night, you have puppy-proofed your house. This means no cords hanging around, no expensive things that he could chew on, no small things laying on the ground, etc.
When your puppy arrives, close the doors to as many rooms as possible or keep him from entering different areas. Begin with a small space for him to investigate. This whole situation is overwhelming itself, so you don’t have to overtax him with a huge house or apartment. Give him plenty of time, talk to him throughout the process and NEVER let him unsupervised.
Taking Your Puppy Outside
The next step should be taking your puppy outside to relieve himself. That’s when you should choose a spot where your puppy will pee every day from now on.
Introduce a command for peeing outside. I cannot tell you how valuable this tip was. It not only saves you time (because someday your puppy will pee immediately on command) but it also helps the puppy quickly identify where his pee spot and it will fasten up the potty training process. You can also use a command for pooping outside.
How to do it: Quickly walk to the spot outside on a leash and wait for your puppy to relieve himself. When he starts, repeat your command until he is finished and then shower him with lots and lots of praise.
Potty training can be very frustrating. I can tell from my own experience. You have to take your puppy out every 10- 30 minutes. Now if you have my puppy, it eventually can happen that you wait outside in the cold morning for 2 hours and she magically doesn’t have to pee. Then you put her inside and not only 3 seconds in and she will pee on the floor.
My advice would be to get your puppy outside wait for him to pee and poop. If he doesn’t relieve himself than simply go inside after 10 minutes and try again in a couple of minutes. That way your puppy will learn that you don’t wait for him the whole day.
The First Night
I always recommend to everyone to get a crate for their dog. I
If you have set up everything correctly for the night, be sure to consider these steps:
- Keep your puppy busy in the evening so he will be dead tired by bedtime.
- Withhold food and water for a few hours before bedtime, so your puppy is less likely to pee himself.
- Get him outside just before you put him into the crate. Let him poop and pee, although my puppy never pooped in the evening.
- Be sure to place the crate near your bed so you can hear your puppy whining.
- Place everything you need for taking your puppy outside close to your bed. Nothing is worse than search for socks in the middle of the night.
- Expect to get like no sleep at all (I felt plain dead for a month).
Crying and Whining in the Crate
Now there is a very crucial point in crate training, especially in the first few nights. Prepare yourself that your puppy will be crying at night (a lot!) and it can be very loud.
But there is a difference between crying because he needs to go outside and whining because he wants your attention. Yes, puppies cry for attention. They are separate from their family for the first time ever and everything is new to them. Do not be mad at your dog for doing so.
If you are sure that your puppy has just relieved himself and everything else is okay then your pup might be crying for your attention. I know that it is very heartbreaking to hear but if you give in and let your puppy have your attention, he will learn “Oh, when I cry mummy will wake up and come to me.”
How to Deal with Crying at Night
This is called learned crying and it will start at night 1. Learned crying is very very hard to get rid of. The best way would be to ignore any crying until he settles down and then you would praise him for that. If you live in an apartment, like me, you simply cannot afford a puppy waking everybody in the middle of the night and I just wanted to sleep.
I made the mistake to take her out of the crate and bring her to the couch because that was the ONLY place she would settle down. Don’t make this mistake you will regret it. It took me a very long time to get rid of this behavior.
The best thing I could find on the internet was a video on youtube. I can ensure you that nothing could help her crying at night and I got like three hours of sleep max. But this video was gold. I will link it for you below. It is so simple but
It usually took me one hour every time to get her to sleep again and this technique has helped me so much.
The key is to be consistent and patient and not give into your puppy’s crying although it sometimes sounds like he is dying (no joke).
Good luck to all of you new puppy parents! How was your first night with your pup? You can leave any questions in the comments down below.